Confirmation in Norway – from childhood to adulthood

The Norwegian confirmation is an important event, marking the transition from childhood to adulthood. It is also arguably one of the most important days in a Norwegians life.

Confirmation is often considered a Christian transition ceremony. In Norway it also is a known as a ritual when it comes to entering adulthood. In the olden days you could start an adult life with privileges like moving from your childhood home, get a job and also drink alcohol.

In Norway a Christian confirmation was required by law between 1736 and up until 1912. It was a legal necessity to gain the rights of adulthood. You could not enter the military service, get married, be a godparent or testify in court without a confirmation certificate. Whoever failed the public examination in the church was expelled and had to graduate again next year. And perhaps even worse, if you had not signed up for confirmation by the age of 19 years, you could be punished with prison or even the pillory.

These days the ritual has become more a symbol and although it now is voluntarily, and also the fact that an alternative civil confirmation was introduced in 1951, the traditional christian confirmation is still popular. The ritual, which is an official confirmation of baptismal grace, is conducted by a vicar who will say a prayer for the candidate and give his or hers blessing. And it all takes place the year you turn 15.

But the preparations starts at least a year in advance; with registering the confirmation with a church, the booking of a venue, deciding on catering and last but not least, buy ‘bunad’ the Norwegian traditional costume. It’s the tradition that a bunad is given as a gift for the confirmation. Usually the bunad will be worn for the confirmation, so it needs to be ready in advance. It takes between 1-2 years to make (with lots of embroidery, all made by hand) by professional bunad seamstresses.

As we are living in London and all our family is in Norway we decided that our daughter would to the confirmation lessons (for a year, in the lead up to the big day) in the Norwegian church in London. The confirmation service would take place in Norway, in our local church there.

Then the bunad was ordered at Bunadsstua in Krødsherad, Norway. This is our local bunad seamstress that specialise in the regions special embroidery, cut and fabrics of the Sigdalsbunad. The tradition you see is that you will have a traditional costume from the home place of your family.

Our firstborn was confirmed on a sunny day in Norway on the 5th of May 2016. The service took place in Vatnås kirke, a tiny ‘stavkirke’ which is an old wooden church, originating back to the 16th century. Family and friends attended the confirmation church ceremony – before we all gathered in the venue of an old historical building close by.

There was a dinner buffet followed by another tradition; a plentiful selection of cakes. If you have been to any celebration in Norway you will already know that the selection of cakes, all home made, is a rather impressive affair and as much a feast for the eyes as it is for the taste buds.

The celebratory meal also includes several speeches; held by the main person who thanks everyone for being there, the parents gives words of wisdom, followed by more well wishes from godparents, grandparents, siblings and so on.

For the confirmation it’s also common to give a gift; traditional jewellery called ‘sølje’ which is for the bunad or money. Traditionally these gift were tokens support and contribute to the youngsters transition into adult life.

The confirmation is arguably one of the most important life events in Norway, were the focus is on the individual, who’s being confirmed. It’s a very special occasion – and you should feel honoured if you are being invited to one.

Here are a few photos from our daughters confirmation, that took place a year ago in Norway.

© Little Scandinavian

If you have any questions regarding a Norwegian confirmation, please ask by leaving a comment below. Meanwhile, we will soon be planning for our next one, for our youngest daughters confirmation that will take place in the Spring of 2020.


  1. Dear Gary. How unfortunate that you will not be able to go! I would still recommend a more personal gift, perhaps relating to your family history, to reflect your sons heritage. A book, a photo or something else you might want to pass on as a token to say welcome to ‘adulthood’ which is part of the Norwegian confirmation tradition. Of course, card and money is fine too. I would say the amount varies widely, an no gift is too small. Parents tend to give anything from NOK500 – NOK2000 – with some giving a lot more. Hope this helps! Hope your son will have a fantastic day! Best, Bianca

  2. Hi Cara. How lovely that you will get to attend a Norwegian confirmation. I would suggest a card with small piece of jewellery, a thoughtful hardcover book or money. The amount would be depending on how close you are, but take into consideration that you are travelling too. Most families would consider that as a gift in itself. Wishing you a lovely trip to Norway! Best, Bianca x

  3. Lovely article and looks like it was a beautiful celebration! My daughter and I have been invited to her cousins confirmation this year in Asker, Norway. We are American and have never been to this type of ceremony before. What is appropriate to bring as a gift?

  4. Hello, I am from the U.S but I have a son in Norway. His confirmation is coming up in September, the unfortunate thing is that I can’t go because of health issue. What would be the appropriate amount of money for a gift? Thanks in advance.

  5. Dear Cathy. A small piece of jewellery or a nice book would be very suitable as well. Best, Bianca

  6. Dear Urooj. A card as well as money is appropriate – or a small piece of jewellery or a nice book. Best, Bianca

  7. Dear Ingrid. Nidarosdomen is one of the most beautiful churches in Norway. I would say yes to suit and yes to a lovely dress, preferably knee lenght or longer, a bolero and hat if you want to. A card and 400NOK is perfectly fine as a gift. A book would have been fine too. In fact I don’t think much would be expected when you are travelling there as well. Hope you and your father will enjoy Trondheim and the confirmation. Best, Bianca

  8. Hei, My father and I are headed to Norway in May (First time)and are attending a confirmation for a girl. It takes place at the Nidaros Domen in Trondheim. Should my father wear a suit? It looks like i will need a nice dress? Is 400nok okay to give?
    Thank you!

  9. Hi,

    A friends daughter is having the confirmation ceremony and I would like to give a gift to the girl. Any idea what I can give?

  10. Would you help me with gifts for a girl who will soon be confirmed. I know money is one of the options

  11. honestly, I just got confirmed the best gift is to just give them some money. The reason for that is because they can then choose what they want to buy

  12. Hello, are you well versed in Norwegian rituals in the late 1800’s?

    I am writing a story that requires some history.

  13. Hi Julie. A confirmation is a day time event, so a a smart dress sounds like a good plan! I hope you will have a wonderful time with the celebration of the “konfirmant”. Best, Bianca

  14. What is an appropriate outfit to wear? We will be attending a confirmation in may and visiting norway for our first time!

  15. Hi, what style of outfit would you recommend for an English aunty & godmother attending my nephews confirmation in Bergen in May ?
    Thank you.

  16. Dear Sara. Most people will give money. Amount depends on how close relation you have to the boy. From 200kr (neighbour etc) to 2000kr (the godparents). For a nephew I’d say between 500-1000kr. If you are not too keen on giving money there’s also other gift options. A confirmation is not like a birthday or Christmas, it only happens once, to mark the transition to adult life. A timeless good quality gift would be much appreciated too. Such as cuff links, leather belt, leather card holder, classic RayBan wayfarer sunglasses, laptop bag etc. In Norway it’s also popular to give quality outdoor gear for hiking and sports, such as tent, outdoor kitchen equipment etc. Hope this helps and that you will enjoy the party in Norway! Best, Bianca x

  17. My nephew is being confirmed in September & I wondered what would be appropriate for a 15 year old boy. Thank you

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