What’s the most difficult thing about living abroad? For us, it’s missing family and friends. Frequent visits as well holding on to our traditions is what helps us getting by.
When first moving abroad you almost have holiday feeling. You discover your city with the passion of an eager tourist. Then after a while, you get used to it all, and feel more settled. And as everyday life goes by you can once in a while find yourself missing family, friends and just ‘home’. And you have a feeling of missing out.
Your best friend gives birth, your sister is celebrating her birthday, another friend is going through a difficult divorce… There’s times you wish you could hold a hand, laugh or cry together with – or just be there with the ones you care about. And then you find yourself in an entirely different country.
Seeing how families gather for Sunday lunches in the UK makes you questioning if you are depriving your little ones from contact, especially with close family such as grandparents. In an ideal world we would of course have lived a short walk from our parents. Not only would it have been great in terms of help with child care, but also a mutual pleasure in spending time together for the young and old generation.
But we have chosen to move abroad, to take our little family and go on an adventure in a foreign country. And you can’t have it all.
Now, Norway is luckily only an two hour flight away. It’s not like we’ve moved to the other side of the world. And with budget airlines it’s easy to go several times a year. In fact most of our holidays are spent in Norway, visiting our family. And quite frequently they will visit us here too. And when they do, they will stay for days, not hours, like they would have if we lived in the same city. And by staying with us, we get lots of quality time together.
Most holidays are spent with family and close friends in Norway, or here in London.
When we are not together, we share small and big events via email and social media to stay in touch. What did parted families do before Facebook and Instagram!? 😉
We truly enjoy our adventure but must admit that missing family and friends as well as feeling ever a bit homesick once in a while can be a challenge.
There’s some very good advice online on how to make the most out of living abroad. Like this; 19 techniques to reduce homesickness abroad, from the blog gooverseas.com
What do you do when you get homesick, or miss family and friends?